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Advice for relatives of ALS patients

My view as ALS patient

Someone once asked me if I have any advice for relatives of ALS patients. Of course, I can only talk from my point of view and possibly my opinion doesn’t correspond to that of other ALS sufferers. But I tell you what I replied to that question anyway.

Quiet acceptance

In the beginning, I especially appreciated not having to talk about the disease or my feelings, not having to answer questions when I wasn't in the mood. I needed time to deal with it myself. I appreciated a „quiet acceptance“ and „giving me time“, so that I could talk about it when I felt the moment was right and when I wanted to, not when someone else wanted it. Yes, you can ask a patient about ALS or his well-being, but without emphasis. Be understanding if the affected person doesn’t give you much insight. If the answers are brief, just be sensitive and don’t go into the matter any further. Go and inform yourself about the disease in another way. I always found it valuable when relatives know a few facts about ALS.

No pressure

It's also important to me not to have any pressure regarding activities or going out. I want to decide for myself when I feel like it and when I do not. Comments that kind of urge you to go somewhere, for one reason or another, are not appropriate. Relatives should understand that an ALS patient probably no longer can or wants to participate in every activity.

Giving time

If the ALS sufferer refuses to see you (in this situation there are mostly reasons that are NOT personal) do not push, but accept and give time – and don’t make unannounced visits! Because of all the nursing effort that has to be juggled in addition to everyday routine, „spontaneous“ is usually not the greatest option.

Well-intended advice

The worst thing is probably giving advice on what might help or what one should do: „Have you tried this?“ „Have you been to that doctor?“ Mostly the argument is that it has helped someone else and that „it will certainly help you too“. Such well-intentioned advice often leaves me with the feeling that other people have the impression I don't mind having this disease – because in their eyes I could do something about it if I only wanted to. As if I myself was to blame for my fate... A terrible and poisoning thought!

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I'm 32 years old and from Austria. I was diagnosed with ALS when I was 18, symptoms began when I was 16 years old. Due to the disease I'm in a wheelchair since 2008. But ALS hasn't stopped me yet from traveling, working, joining a choir and enjoying my life the most I can. Instagram: @bibi_wheelchair_traveller.

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Advice for relatives of ALS patients

Someone once asked me if I have any advice for relatives of ALS patients. Of course, I can only talk from my point of view and possibly my o